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How To Know What You Really Want

January 29, 2024

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Today’s discussion is inspired by a recent conversation I had with a colleague who finds herself at a career crossroads. Like many of us, she knows what she doesn’t want from her current career trajectory, but the vision of what she truly desires remains elusive. Let’s delve into overcoming the mental barriers that often hinder our pursuit of change.

Understanding the Negativity Bias

Our brains possess a remarkable ability to detect flaws and potential threats in situations—a phenomenon known as the negativity bias. While this trait is invaluable for self-preservation, it can also inhibit our capacity to envision positive change. Recognizing and challenging this bias is crucial for personal growth.

Embracing a Career Pivot

If you’re contemplating a career shift or longing for a change in your legal profession, you’re not alone. Many individuals grapple with feelings of stagnation and uncertainty. However, it’s essential to break free from the constraints of self-imposed limitations and explore new possibilities.

Imagining Sarah’s Ideal Life

Engage in a thought experiment by envisioning the life of someone else—in this case, let’s call her Sarah. By distancing yourself from your own circumstances, you can explore what an ideal legal career might look like without the burden of perceived limitations. This exercise facilitates clarity in identifying your true desires.

Overcoming Mental Blocks

The purpose of this exercise isn’t to cultivate envy but rather to dismantle mental barriers that hinder self-realization. As you envision Sarah’s ideal life, confront the objections and fears that arise. Challenge the notion of immovability and consider whether obstacles stem from genuine limitations or unfounded anxieties.

Nurturing Your Vision

Allocate dedicated time to introspection and goal-setting. Create a routine that allows for moments of clarity amidst life’s busyness. Start by jotting down your thoughts and objections, revisiting them regularly as you inch closer to a definitive vision for your future.

Seeking Support and Guidance

Surround yourself with individuals who inspire and support your aspirations. Seek out communities like Lawyer on Your Terms, where like-minded individuals share experiences and insights. Engage in conversations, glean wisdom from diverse perspectives, and chart your path forward with confidence.

Setting Attainable Goals

Remember, meaningful change doesn’t happen overnight. Break down your aspirations into manageable goals and develop a roadmap for success. Whether it’s exploring new career avenues or transitioning to a flexible work arrangement, approach change with patience and strategic planning.

Conclusion

Embarking on a journey of self-discovery and professional fulfillment requires courage and perseverance. By challenging ingrained biases and embracing the unknown, you pave the way for transformative growth. Join us in navigating the complexities of legal careers, one step at a time. Until next time, stay inspired, stay empowered, and remember, your ideal future is within reach.

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